Everything You Can Switch to Grow More Satisfied
Often, we think more is better. More friends, more money, more cars, more…everything. It’s easy to think a few life hacks and breathing exercises will be transformational. Here’s the thing: it’s easier to be happy if you don’t actively try and be happy. In fact, it’s far more effective to eliminate things that negatively impact our happiness in the first place than look for new things to add to our lives. Subtraction folks, not addition.
Stay Away From Negative Information
The kind of information your brain processes affects your mood and overall happiness. If it’s all negative, then sorry to break it to you but, it will take a toll on you. That is why to start, you should start watching the news less. Did you know that more than half of Americans say the news causes them stress, and many report feeling anxiety, fatigue or sleep loss as a result? Unsurprisingly, the news cover more bad events than good ones, I mean, that’s why they exist.
But, when you watch it constantly, you subconsciously become sadder from all the crime and misfortune going on around the world. The media may also paint your view of the world in a more negative light. Similar idea with social media, repeated exposure to idealized images and lifestyles has shown to decrease one’s self-esteem.
After too much exposure, we feel less appreciative of what we have and worry too much about what we could have.
Remove Negative People
Have you ever heard of the saying ‘you’re the average of the five people you spend the most time with’? It’s a quote by Jim Rohn, an American entrepreneur. It rings very true.
If you’re surrounded by friends who are pessimists, generally unhappy, and unambitious, then you will naturally develop similar traits because that’s all you’ve seen. Here’s a little secret: it’s significantly easier to change your environment altogether, rather than try to change those around you.
Never underestimate the power of your social circle. In fact, Harvard researchers discovered that good relationships are the strongest factor in a life of happiness and health. But, remember not to blame anyone for your unhappiness, they’re not actively trying to make your life miserable (probably).
Identify the sources of your negative environment and have brutally real conversations (respectfully), and after that, well, you know what to do (cut them off!).
Quit Trying to “Prove Yourself”
People care too much about what others think. We always feel the need to prove self-worth and somehow “validate” our existence. Do yourself a favour, if you want to be happy, stop chasing an imaginary standard of excellence.
That incessant, unrealistic desire to be “perfect” leads to depression, anxiety, and burnout.
Ask yourself some important questions. If you’re thinking of doing something, well, if you could never tell a single person about your accomplishments, would you still pursue them?
If your so-called “self-journey” for improvement doesn’t turn you into a “better” person, would you still do it? If you’re truly doing tasks for enjoyment and love, your life actions would be more meaningful.
Overcome Your Materialism
Remove your attachment to material things. Come on, stop running on that hedonistic treadmill and live in the moment. Value your human relationships and real-life experiences over your next car or iPhone.
Having nice things are not a bad thing if you can keep the desire balanced and would be completely fine parting with it.